I had sunny school days (and cloudy/rainy/humid/cold school days). Sunny school days (meaning everyday of school – yes I was one of those weirdo’s that loved school) were happy, fun, enjoyable, and bully free. You see, for me, when I was a child going to primary and high school I was only ever bullied once. Once. Did I have an anti-bully aura? Did I come across as tough and angry enough to scare a bully off? Nope. I don’t know why I wasn’t bullied, the only thing I can put it down to is that I was quiet, friendly, good at a sport (apparently this is an important thing), and generally congenial with all (boys, girls, teachers, parents). The one time I was bullied it was by a boy called . . . let’s call him Wally, and he was picking on my “Tool-box” pencil case (which every kid had, so why mine was deemed pickable on, I don’t know) and he called my “the tool-kit man” or something like that (it obviously wasn’t a traumatic experience as I can’t even remember exactly what he said) all across the playground. Me! I just ignored him because I was mortified that he was drawing unnecessary attention to me. I didn’t respond because I didn’t want to interact with him on any level. Guess what? Almost to the other side of the playground he gave up and went on his merry way, never to pick on me again. AND that is my only ever experience of being bullied in some way.
I know that kids (especially disabled kids) can be prone to being bullied because they are different. I don’t know, really, how to help these kids, except to talk to them about my own life. To let these kids know that school is such a small part of your life, that you can pick yourself up and be a success, even with or after hardship, is the only thing I can think to say. You see, I am not an expert on bullying, I am not a teacher, or a parent (I am an Aunt, however, to six adorkable nieces and nephews). I am just me, with my stories of living with disability, with my one little story of being bullied, with my huge success stories and my need to inspire others.
(image via Dream Girl)
I am writing this post on a whim, on a cloud of meta-thoughts that have cascaded from the news about the rising level of disability hate crime in the UK. I am sad to think that people – even once they leave school – seem to think that it is okay to bully someone who is different to them . . . by that definition shouldn’t these people be bullying everyone (and even themselves), as everyone is different in someway. On the flip side, everyone has many similarities, and the bullies should realise this also – that disabled people are just like them. You see, we all have feelings, emotions, dreams, and goals; we are the same in this respect. The other thing to note with bullies is that they obviously don’t realise (or they do, but just want to ignore it) the fragility of their own lives. They can’t acknowledge the fact that tomorrow they could end up in a wheelchair, wearing a prosthetic leg, or wearing a hearing aid. No-one can be “safe” from the land of disability . . . so treat those with disabilities with respect, support, and dignity, cause one day you (or that bully, or that runner, or that teacher, or that mum, or that shop keeper) could end up disabled and having to adjust to a brand new life (complete with ignorant bullies picking on them).
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